Rumor has it, that you are confused.

Quick heads-up that this isn’t a subject that I’ve talked about before, but it is one that I’ve been getting a lot of questions about. 

So what motivates my man, to say he loves me?

Has a guy ever given you mixed signals?

One minute he’s crazy about you and the next minute you have no clue if he ever wants to see you again?

And it’s especially hard when you think, there’s something special between you and you have no idea what went wrong.

I assure you it’s nothing that you did.

In fact, he may even care about you a great deal and still not be able to stop himself from acting this way.

But why does this happen?

There’s one BIG reason why men do this...

And I discovered what, women need to know to understand this bizarre behavior.

It all comes down to a missing “secret ingredient” that not one in a thousand women knows ...

And it’s the biggest factor that determines whether a man just “likes” you...

...or if he sees you as “The One!”

You see, this “secret ingredient” is so important to a man that no matter how attracted to you he is, or how strong your chemistry is...

If it’s missing, he’ll never be able to truly give his heart to you...

And he will always have an unshakeable urge to seek out a woman who has this one “secret ingredient.”

On the other hand, when you know......you won’t believe how effortless, passionate and bulletproof your relationship can be.

This post may help a few people.

Men are motivated and empowered when They feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.

When a man does not feel needed in a relationship, he gradually becomes passive and less energized; with each passing day, he has less to give the relationship. On the other hand, when he feels trusted to do his best to fulfill a woman's needs and appreciated for his efforts, he is empowered and has more to give. 

Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. When a woman does not feel cherished in a relationship she gradually becomes compulsively responsible and exhausted from giving too much. On the other hand, when she feels cared for and respected, she is fulfilled and has more to give. 

When a man loves a woman he feels as if he has been struck by lightning, in one glorious moment his life is permanently changed. He has glimpsed through his telescope a vision he describes as awesome beautiful and grace. His body is lit on fire. As he watches her for the first time in his life he begins to care about someone other than himself. From just one glimpse his life has new meaning. his depression lifted.   

Men have a win/lose philosophy-- we want to win, and we don't care if you lose. As long as each man took care of himself his formula worked fine. It worked for centuries, but now it needs to change. Giving primarily to ourselves is no longer as satisfying. Being in love, men want the woman, we love,  to win as much as ourselves
quick spots analogy: In most sports today we can see an extension of this male competitive code. for example, in tennis, I not only want to win but also to try to make my friend lose by making it difficult for him to return my shots. I enjoy winning even though my friend loses. Most of these male attitudes have a place in life, but this win/lose attitude becomes harmful in our adult relationships. If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my lady, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both to win.