You don't know how to be a wife!

Wow, that has to be a really powerful statement to make and hear. I think most women will scarf at hearing that statement. But many guys these days are thinking it.... even if they are not saying it directly to the women they may be married to or having an affair with.

So how did we get here? Has the role of women changed that much? Had the freedom train just been derailed as men are now thinking, and internally complaining about what, society has become so caught up in materialism and superficial things that really don’t mean anything, in the long run. After watching this video a couple of times.

I started analyzing what I heard and what I think the problems have become with women. Words like “blueprint” and “definition” popped to the front of the line.

When did men who have put women in so many defined categories, suddenly decide that women they helped define do not have "a clue" as to what they want in woman/wife?

Words like “bored” and statements “ you don’t know how to holding me down, as a wife”

I.e. “You are clueless as to what I want from you!”

Could it be that life is no longer simple? Women in our mother’s times had defined roles, to look good and become a wife/mother keep a clean home and raise their children. Where are women supposed to get the “blueprint”  if they didn’t have mothers showing them exactly what men are looking for in a wife? Or better yet Daddies who can show them and tell them how a man wants a woman to act.

OK so now it’s woman ’s mother’s fault…. Well maybe it is or is it  that men these days have no idea what is it “Men want, in a wife”

We all see it on the big screen, women twerking and acting and looking provocatively/sexy. But like everything else this get’s old. When men start thinking that stuff is “BORING”. Men want more! They want women they can have a stimulating conversation with, they want a “superwoman”, men want women to be women. OK so the book “ Becoming Michelle Obama” comes to mind, it’s a record breaking best seller. No surprise in view.

That tells me something  “Our first lady” has set Bar so very high that men who normally would not think of her type of woman as being their type of ideal women Are now thinking why can’t the woman I’m with be like her.  First of all, Michelle had a role model mom. Who set the BAR pretty high for her. She became an overachiever as a result of her examples she followed, and excel on principles. She was not TWERKING on Youtube, telling  Barrack “my face is pretty cute, my stomach is flat, my butt is big.” She was studying to pass the bar. Which made her a professional legal mind in an era when many women were not yet that ambitious. She also became a wife and mother… A wife to the next president of USA. the first black President… let that sink in for a minute.  in an era when “Superwoman“ was being defined to look like “Michelle Obama”. Her mother deserves a whole lot of credit, for molding her. Which in term became the “Blueprint” as what a “First Lady” should act like, should be able to present herself to the World and should sound like.

Now fellahs ask yourselves when was it that your version of a “First Lady” got defined in your minds????? We all had an awakening when the “The Obama power couple” became the perfect definition of “Grace and common respect and all the terms we associate with Superwoman/wife/mother professional Lawyer and the list goes on and on.  Walking tall and looking Oooh so dignified”  Barrack knows (his wife, his choice) she makes him look even more Presidential, his face and his swagger speak volumes.       

To “the Tyrese type brothers of the World” you never saw this at the beginning of your relationships until Mrs. Obama showed you what you were missing out on. Then suddenly you woke up and thought the women I had, up to that point were/are not good enough. Maybe Your choices in life are not good enough and your behavior did not attract the woman you now seem to want. I have to say it this way I don’t think “You are  the type of man that a Michelle Obama would have picked either!”

Go back to singing  “Be my lady” and pay attention to your own lyrics.