Attraction could be Cool, but isn't having Great Chemistry even greater!

How did you sneak up on me?

One of the biggest challenges in life is separating what feels good from what’s good for you. We have all experienced the euphoria of falling in love and the power of sexual chemistry. But neither of those things means you are compatible for a relationship or marriage.
Yes, chemistry is essential to creating a strong bound but it doesn’t mean you share the same values or lifestyle. And it certainly doesn’t make your emotional, psychological, or financial baggage disappear. And let’s not forget about common values and interest. Without that longevity is impossible!

Sometimes the people we “Click With” are simply meant to be companions, or temporary lovers, or platonic friends. Of course the ideal is to have chemistry, friendship, and compatibility, but too often we mistake one for the other; not only will you destroy the potential for having a great friendship but you’ll block yourself from that special someone who can give you what you need and what you deserve. ~ Michael Baisden

hmmm!

My perspective:  How the order in which Attraction follows  chemistry  happened these days is subject to circumstance aided by Social Media and/or  Tequila shots happy hour.. Let me  just state my case of observation  here. Attraction often happens during social media sessions, Your friend post something and a comment from one of their friends catch your eye, At that  point you have almost instant access to  that person's pics  and other post ( unless they protect their profile against intruders). This   now becomes a surfing session of ....oohs and wows this looks like a person I would like to get closer to, lets  check out her/his birthday... Are we compatible base on our zodiac signs at least? Huh, wait  she has 3 kids.. ooh wait let's pause, and think about this for or moment. 
This intended  pursuit.... will stall if too much time passes, simply because the chemistry does not start happening  until that new person accept your friendship request on facebook, and start communicating with you.
 Hopefully she didn't mistake you for someone else, who has the same first name, and she does not remember that other person's last name. So this could  be a mistake in identity that started the communication going on a mistake but that can be fixed if you have good to above average communication skills . In addition to what may be a mistake. the Geographical Location may make meeting  each other in person possible or impossible, it becomes one of those infatuations that may fade in  time, unless strong efforts are put forth. Especially if someone  else becomes a new point of interest, in the interim.   

As  men we have this internal conflict..... we want woman  to be   calm lady-like Females on the streets, representing us , and a Cougar in the bedroom, we want to be  the only one that  knows she is cougar behind closed doors and experience it. If she is a cougar then she must have developed those practiced skills some where (there you goo Pausing again.)   For all that we see about librarian type women that let their hair down after hours and become pole dancer on the big stage or on the pay per view channels. We men have to realize that there is a script that is being acted out, even amateur performers follow a script. So When is chemistry going to kick this relationship into high gear?  During the Warrior encounter or during the Zen sessions. She will not just be swinging from the chandelier 1-2-3..... unless you make her addicted to you!

  "To be or not to be, that is the question... " The  fact that we  men have been watching Porn, secretly, since we where slightly older  than 12( in my case I read my dad's books from his private library,  in secret, so I imagine most of it.)  We just think  what we think, and what  we like is really what we like . what  we fail to consider is the woman and how her chemical connection to us  is triggered by something not so freaky. No woman wants a complete gentleman unless she has only known jerks in past life. No woman wants a complete  animal with caveman instincts either , unless she just has a fetish for that type.... So be on the safe side and ask her this  simple question: 

 "Do you like strong, sensual, alpha BAD boy, who is  forced to humble himself for the woman he loves? "   and see how she responds to you.  If you don't get a response, don't force the issue.. Give her time to think. she is not a light switch. Maybe she's dealing with stuff that she does not want repeated..... Things that will come to light in time. We men become attracted to a Queen.. and instantly want to Reign   over her Kingdom... News flash: Women who own their own Kingdom  are Queens.. they need time to allow a King to join them... in a merger.  If you are not patient you will never have that merger! STOP thinking takeover... because a Queen wants a joint venture and a merger. Never a complete takeover.