The Challenges Of Being A Real Man in the 21st Century

Excerpt from Michael Baisden  book, Raise Your Hand If You Have Issues! 

My responsibility as a man is to bring my resources to the table — intellectual, financial, life experience and challenge my partner to do the same. At some point, we will have a difference of opinion on a number of issues, but it is through those differences that we challenge one another to grow! As a man, it’s not about being in charge or being right, it’s about making my partner feel secure and challenging her to see the world through the eyes and mind of her man.

The challenge for us men is to gain more knowledge and insight through reading, traveling and listening, to broaden our perspective so that an intelligent woman will respect our point of view enough to listen to what we have to say. We can’t beat our chests and raise our voices believing this is the way to lead. We must lead by our example and strength of character. Only an insecure man would expect a woman to submit to his way of thinking when he hasn’t accomplished anything with those thoughts. And only a woman who is a fool would follow a man who talks a good game but doesn’t have anything to show for it. As I said earlier, most women don’t need a man, but they definitely want a good one … and a strong one.

By Michael Baisden

MY perspective: In this game that we call dating, it is always the Season of Trick or Treat. women feel like they've  been tricked over and over by the man with the mask. He comes wearing a disguise that she  don't take the time to see behind. she  gives him "candy" every time. then she is left Sad, lonely, broken, from being tricked again, and again! Lust comes to her  dressed in a "love" costume. She opens the door over and over and over. Trick or Treat. She  should know by now that this is the season of jokers with mask who dress up and pretend, to get  candy. It is ALL about the candy. Funny how you put the CANDY on display to draw them, they snatch it  partake and then  RUN. leaving You crying. Trick Or Treat. It is the season of things that go bump in the night. Bump and grind, you should be afraid of the ghouls that come for candy, but...it is sweet to you for the moment. Trick or Treat. Sweet turns to sour and sour to Bitter. Bitterness defiles to the ROOT of who she is .Who was he really? She tries to understand why she was Tricked again, and left  alone again. Her  relationships  have become  a House of Horrors.

Ladies you  must begin to LOOK behind the mask. Spirits HIDE, but Good reveals. women  are NOT ignorant to the tricks when they  see with the eyes of the Spirit.

The FLESH sees the treat. The intuition sees the TRICK.

I got you don't worry!

So what are women to do when men are not stepping up to the task, of being Real men. Society has changed the definitions so many time that I can't keep up anymore. The "I got you"  looks like this pic  in my minds eyes. A woman can be upside down, after less than good past  experiences, can now be assured that she will never hit that lowest point in her life again, Once she has a caring man in her corner. A man's  voice should be comforting and reassuring, no matter how deep the bass, not scary and threatening when he raises his voice . If you have not known the difference in you life then  LADIES  it's time that you change your associations with the members of the opposite sex you are associating with!  Just like the old adage "the darker the berry the sweeter the juice," when there is  just enough bass in the male voice  " the deeper the voice, the more compassion in the heart" because it is coming from a deep down place. Don't be scared!