You Can’t Change A Man!

For whatever reason, women are under the impression that just because a man says, “I do,” that all of his desires to be with other women will magically disappear. How ridiculous!
It is this issue of change that is at the heart of many failed relationships. The woman is looking forward to it, while the man is fighting against it.
“I’ll be your husband or boyfriend,” the man thinks, “but my lifestyle isn’t going to change.” Meanwhile, the infatuated woman is presuming, “Once we get together, everything will change.” For whatever reason, women are under the impression that just because a man says, “I do,” that all of his desires to be with other women will magically disappear. How ridiculous! The man who cheats before getting married will cheat afterwards. It’s that simple. And all of the good conversation, good cooking, and good pussy in the world isn’t going to stop them.
But don’t try to tell that to the hard-headed woman who’s blinded by love, or whipped. She is determined to solve every riddle, heal every wound, and right every wrong. She refuses to accept the fact that her man cannot or will not commit. Why is that? you ask. I believe it has a great deal to do with the woman’s instinctual need to nurture and pamper. Some women perceive infidelity as an emotional disease that can be remedied with a little patience and her overwhelming love. “He just hasn’t found the right woman,” she declares. However, the reality is that he has found the perfect woman, one who will stand idly by and keep her mouth shut while he does his business.

My B.A.D. perspective, it's a myth that a woman can't change a man,  as a mature man, our eyes focus better when the aesthetics are "all that  a bag of chips, and maybe some beer" during a football game.i.e.Extreme aesthetics. 
Just say pardon the interruption    Most men start questioning  if they can get excite instantly and be  able to remain excited when the  aesthetics are not what he remembers them  as they use to be. this is not fair to the woman  in our lives. because time that passing us by  is not anyone's friend.  Men who have problems getting things going need to be stimulated and visual stimulation is what worked well for years so they go back to that mindset. Since  men are natural hunters, except for in the animal Kingdom , where the  Lionesses  are the real hunters not so much the male Lion (he just lips his lips after dining.) I'm pretty  sure if we men  have it backwards. because we chase a female until we get caught  and then we feel trapped. so we, from that point in time on,   need to feel a release from that fear of the permanent trap of  incarceration, men seek to engage in the hunting games  for new  younger prey,  which leads to many problems in committed relationships.  
A younger woman, was complaining to me the other day, that her older boyfriend (20 years older)  was caught cheating. I thought:---- 'ooh wow, really? ', then she said "I told him...  I have no problem if you  sneak out  and cheat ------just don't get caught" this really made me pause!  so it's OK to have a Secret Lover! Just don't get caught?  Now Fellahs don't fall for this.... these are tricks to get you to confess.   
However if a man sees Heaven in your eyes, he could do without the " extreme aesthetics" you once  had just a few years ago,  and the excitement will be back in your romantic live. He just wants you, just as you are,  because you complete him.  The fact that he was willing to  put a ring on it, it's  good enough reason to feel that he is somewhat sincere in his actions.  He has a heavenly investment , that he does not want to loose.  

From my point of view .... 
'I can never say no to you if I see Heaven in your eyes'