”Unconditional Love…People Say It But Do They Mean It?”

“I feel  you.”

I really enjoyed the movie Avatar. One of the themes that left an impression on me was when the characters told one another, “I see you.” The word love to me is about that same sentiment, seeing a person for their true self and not what’s on the outside or what others may see. It’s about having strong feeling for someone simply because of who they are not because of what they can do for you or for how they make you feel, or for what you expect from them. You should love someone just for being, well, him or herself.
And it is the expectations of the love experience that prevents people from growing their love into it’s full potential because too often we have a predetermined idea of how love is supposed to be. Just as you wouldn’t expect a flower to grow in a particular direction or at a certain rate you shouldn’t expect your love to do what you want it to do, it just is. All you can do is water it and nurture it and hope for the best.
People always say that true love is unconditional but if we’re being honest, most people expect their love to be reciprocated and at the same level of intensity. Now, those sounds like conditions to me. Why can’t we continue to love the way we fell into love? And that only happens when it comes naturally and unselfishly. I want you to love the person you see, the real person right in front of you, not the person you created in your fantasies. ~ Michael Baisden

My perspective: who really sees you for who you really are and L-O-V-E  you  unconditionally? For sure Not a person who you are just  dating. this kind of love takes time, it's love that  has past the test of time. Lean-IN  folks, in  today's world no Man loves a woman unconditionally , and no Woman loves a man  unconditionally. Why?? You ask!   

“I'm confused!”

Simple answer too many distractions! We are distracted  by everything around us. Things that tell us that we  can't make the other person happy, because they are settling for whatever was left in the grab bag or someone else's leftovers, or discarded item. We keep hearing there are no good men,  there are no  good women,  and DON'T be a desperate woman, DON'T  be your mother or grand mother, DON'T be who you were  raised to be. However at the same time, you are told,  you need to do  the following: 

• Always bring Added Value to a relationship.
• Be Outstanding,be  a person of quality.
• Be Prepared, to impress.
• Be Concise and Specific in describing your wants and needs.
• Be a Passionate person.

If you want to be connected, make yourself worth connecting to. It's a journey, and every step counts. 

“I will punch your lights out.”

Start by Fighting for what you want, but do not  fight that  new person from day one, don't build anything on negative energy, try  working on  positive energy.  Fight, fight, fight to make sure you will never find "untrue" fake  happiness. Don't be controversial. You can't be  a sharp  contrast to what he/she  wants, but  be what he/she needs. SMH  all these mixed signals and all these constant  streams of information,  keeps us questioning  the other persons motives, behaviors. We Question Their willingness to do what we  want. Instead of Getting what you both need, which is to share in each others happiness. Bring your happiness and I will bring mine and we can make it work.  correcting I will bring my happiness while you bring your happiness and we will meet each other in the middle of the bridge... and cross it together!  

Come bring me your softeness!