You shouldn't have to Beg your Man For Attention Because you Gained A Little Weight!’

Hey scale please stop lying

Take a breath. No matter what number is on the scale, you are beautiful, whole, perfect, and yes, STILL a “hottie.”


Ladies  You are not alone. Many women (and some men) suffer in silence when a partner loses interest after a little  body change.

Generally, when we make a long-term relationship commitment, we choose to love, honor, and cherish for a lifetime. I am not sure the nature of the promises you made with your partner, but it sounds as though that this is the kind of relationship you most likely were seeking.

To me, the real issue is what is going on with you, rather than what is happening with your partner. You gained 15 pounds in a couple of months. I am not a doctor, but that sounds to me like a large amount to gain in such a short period of time. 

Whether by personal design, lifestyle change, or health issue, there is some reason you gained the weight in the first place. Is it a hormonal change, health issue, emotional issue like depression, side effect to medication or some other cause?

Often when we gain weight for emotional reasons, it is because we feel unsafe. The weight becomes literally an insulator from the outside world. If your weight gain is due to increased eating, are you trying to numb yourself to or avoid something happening in your life?

Ideally, a romantic partner should love us no matter what happens with our bodies. The reality is that weight gain or even, sadly, body illness, is a deal-breaker for some people. I have a life coaching client who ended a relationship over her partner’s weight gain. When I asked why, she said she didn’t sign up for that. She explained, “I am not attracted to fat men. If I wanted a fat man I would have dated one in the first place.” We can judge her as superficial, but personal sexual attraction is not an interchangeable science. We are all attracted to different things.

You are all grey and you have the nerve to act like
 She is no longer attractive. 

Right now, your priority is to take care of you. See a medical doctor immediately to make sure everything is okay physically. I would also advise you to see a therapist.

As for your relationship with your man, open, honest communication is necessary ASAP. Show him this letter and see what he has to say. Of course you don’t want to throw your relationship away, but you didn’t sign up to be ignored either. You deserve to have a man who finds you irresistible. 

You say you have to beg or cry to get attention. That is unacceptable. That’s no way to live… or love.

My perspective after reading this in an online article..my mind hit Pause. and I focused on  "We take vows to  love, honor, and cherish for a lifetime" this shouldn't be so hard to help your partner overcome what is a challenging body change that they are experiencing. as far as weight gain. My mindset is if you gain inches/ weight....   you can  reverse the gains by getting some help. You shouldn't wait until you get to that weight to be eligible to be  on  the TV show "the :biggest Looser"  A Simple approaches is work at it with a little urgency and expediency . Having your partner's  encouragement is so  key to success, not boot camp drills style, but simple changes can result in  Small victories. This should be the methods used. Start with what you can help your partner accomplish. If she/he hates the fact that she/he gained weight  offering to help her/him  Loose it, This will take care of the Attention part,  you are  half way there..  Do not use references like ----"Look at how you looked back then in these pics." Or "your BFF is still so slim, like when you both where  in college."  and the worst "that pregnancy stomach has got  to go." etc. 

I had to   chased you  for years
 now it's your turn,
catch me if you can!

Try a caring approach, this  will always get the best results. When you go together to a gym get a proper diet plan for both of you. If you can't be supportive and positive then turn her over to a trainer who will use the right type of training.  Let her have the little successes, and declare victory . and then she will want to keep going until she achieves her goals. NOT  yours!  
So why do men who are involved with  women stop “chasing” them at a certain point? Why does this happen, and how can it be dealt with?My  arguments are essential that we must continually invest into relationships and create “value” — i.e., the reasons the other person is attracted to us and why they would want to stick around. In a healthy relationship, you must not only communicate that you expect this of the other person, but you must effectuate it yourself as well. Only then can a natural rhythm and yearning be created and recreated.

Just a little token to show you how proud I am of you! 

Feel the power of a renewed connection when both parties are  Happy with results of a joint venture that succeeded.  
Fellahs  think about how you will feel and how you will make her feel, when your support of your lady gave you the best result of her choice to look and feel better/. 
Sing this tune in her ear as she opens her gift you got for her after she has completed her weight and size reduction. 
"It's so good loving somebody , when somebody loves your back"  Just make sure you  try and stay in the  Teddy Pendergrass pocket!