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If you are trying to get your act together, as a man you may not really know the answer to the caption question. Unless you have been in a relationship with
an accomplished self-empowered woman. As men, we know how to “chase”
who we think we want but do we know what to do when she slows down or even stops
and lets us catch up. Many women are stepping up to new levels these days.
And many guys are not quite there on their levels, yet. So what happens if she falls for a guy, not on her level. Can he handle the challenges that come with her already being
where he is trying to get to? Maybe Oprah and Stedman are perfect examples as to
what catching up to her really means…….
an accomplished self-empowered woman. As men, we know how to “chase”
who we think we want but do we know what to do when she slows down or even stops
and lets us catch up. Many women are stepping up to new levels these days.
And many guys are not quite there on their levels, yet. So what happens if she falls for a guy, not on her level. Can he handle the challenges that come with her already being
where he is trying to get to? Maybe Oprah and Stedman are perfect examples as to
what catching up to her really means…….
Now we all want the best person on our arm, but if she drives a luxury car, for example,
and your car is not as stylish. Do you go to pick her up and feel comfortable if she says:
“ let’s take my car instead of yours. We can leave your car here and you can drive
it home after our date.”
and your car is not as stylish. Do you go to pick her up and feel comfortable if she says:
“ let’s take my car instead of yours. We can leave your car here and you can drive
it home after our date.”
OK, the message is clear she has created a picture of a position of more powerful than his.
The message should be clear but how is it received?
The message should be clear but how is it received?
The feelings of not measuring up to her accomplishments can cause a man to retreat and
not want to try as hard to make the relationship even get out of blocks to a possibility of “forever after!”
Maya Angelou stated it best “ you may not remember what they said, but you will remember
how they made you feel.” We are all sensitive beings but men have been taught over the years
to be tough “don’t show your feels, don’t let the other person know how they made you feel insecure
and never let them see you sweat.”
not want to try as hard to make the relationship even get out of blocks to a possibility of “forever after!”
Maya Angelou stated it best “ you may not remember what they said, but you will remember
how they made you feel.” We are all sensitive beings but men have been taught over the years
to be tough “don’t show your feels, don’t let the other person know how they made you feel insecure
and never let them see you sweat.”
Don’t get me wrong an immature man would think, “OK, great” I get to drive her car, and it’s a Bentley.”
But most guys that have a large ego might not want to be seen as a gigolo in her car,
he might be seen (by his friends) as her chauffeur, in his mind.
But most guys that have a large ego might not want to be seen as a gigolo in her car,
he might be seen (by his friends) as her chauffeur, in his mind.
Standard that has been established over the years (by men) have now started to erode.
Men sometimes feel like the odds are stacked again them. Women are now feeling empowered.
So what can two people do that are in these positions. Let’s ask Michelle Obama and Barack Obama…
They started out as Michelle having the job that made her his superior, for a time.
He drove a beat up car, that had holes in the floorboard. Picture her driving with him in that car and
her questioning if she wanted to be seen in that car with him, to them years later being
driven in President of the USA’s limo, and on Marine One from the white house lawn to flying on
US One (around the country and world).
So how did they make that happen? By being a team, she sacrifices her career for his drive to be
all that he can be. If you don’t know that delayed gratification comes with the price of
sacrifices up front. Not insisting that the other person has to be “what and who” you want them to be.
Might not work out well for either of you.
Men sometimes feel like the odds are stacked again them. Women are now feeling empowered.
So what can two people do that are in these positions. Let’s ask Michelle Obama and Barack Obama…
They started out as Michelle having the job that made her his superior, for a time.
He drove a beat up car, that had holes in the floorboard. Picture her driving with him in that car and
her questioning if she wanted to be seen in that car with him, to them years later being
driven in President of the USA’s limo, and on Marine One from the white house lawn to flying on
US One (around the country and world).
So how did they make that happen? By being a team, she sacrifices her career for his drive to be
all that he can be. If you don’t know that delayed gratification comes with the price of
sacrifices up front. Not insisting that the other person has to be “what and who” you want them to be.
Might not work out well for either of you.
“The audacity of hope” (chapter 9 Family) leads to “change we can believe in”
Now I will read…..
“Becoming Michelle Obama “
Next.
I can learn something from her for sure!
I can learn something from her for sure!
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