Somethings could make her happy for a brief moment

Captain take me to a heavenly place!

We men are often confused because we try so hard to make our woman happy, not realizing that what makes a woman happy is not within the man’s power to do so. You can satisfy her with the things that are on her list, but that’s just temporary satisfaction…. Her long-term happiness is not due to you (as her man) doing the things that are on her list for her. Often enough her list is a “to do list” that was made up for her self achievements. Now she may like the fact that you have done a few of the thing she wants but the greatest satisfaction wasn’t that you did it for her,  you didn’t complete the list, to her total satisfaction. She wanted to achieve them herself for herself. Or have you do them and then correct them to her satisfaction. For example, if she wants to have the ultimate professional career… do you think handing her the keys to the Ivory tower will satisfy her the way she would be satisfied when she got there on her own with little or no help from her man, she might be happy, but she still thinks “would it be easier if he helps me?” Mature men are often more delusional than young men.  Young men look at women and think “yeah she is beautiful, but what will she do for me?” Mature men think “ Wow she is so beautiful, and looks happy, what do I need to do to keep her happy just like that… long-term” neither of the two men have a clue. Mature men can assume that she wants him to play the “Daddy” roll and younger men can assume she needs a stud to make have multiple orgasms. Both are not even close to getting it right. The statement often use for guys that are clueless about women’s needs... are “We men have no idea what to do to make her happy” Chris Rock said it best “ A man can not make a woman happy.”  this does not mean you should not try. It simply means try to do your best but doesn’t expect the impossible.

A man often thinks “well this would make ME happy” so he does that for his woman, thinking that it will make her happy also. “Wrong!” Your happiness as a man has nothing to do with her happiness as a woman. You might be the ultimate catch in multiple women’s view, but her knowing that... you become “that guy” that makes her most insecure.

This is a heavenly vacation… am I the only woman you have brought to this place?

“Why are you looking over your shoulder what are you looking for, you were so happy just  a minute ago!”

You can be that guy who is the CEO of mayor company, the king of the Mountain, and she will be right there with you  sharing in YOUR Glorous moments…. The benefits are numerious but she will not always be happy. “Why?” because now you have too much responsibility and her priorities are not that high on your to-do list.  She may like the status that your achievement brings but she is not the one who has achieve that status without being with you. Example: When I was trying hard to be all that I could be it was puzzling to me that I could impress a woman for about a second or two, and that was about it. If she was a “Gold digger “ then she liked the car I drove in Chicago, or  the apartment I had in N.Y…. If she was a consumer of fine wines and fancy dinners then she was loving the taste of the food that the chef put together…. Not the food that I cooked for her. OK it’s great you are a man who can cook her favorite meal…. but somehow the meal taste better to her if you took her to the revolving floor restaurant on the top of the Pier 66 hotel on the intercoastal in Fort Lauderdale Fl. Or the Intercontinetal hotel in Miami....  Or the Hancock build in Chicago , Ill. SMDH I’ve known fellahs that have flown women first class to New Orleans to have Dinner at the “Commanders Palace restaurant”, just to impress her… but once she has experienced it…. That wonderful impression wares off within seconds. It felt great, but once experienced…. it becomes … “what are you going to do next?” or “What have you done for me lately?” Be greatful that she wants to be in your company when she is enjoying what she wants to do. Think about it….. will she really enjoy being in a  skybox at your favorite Sunday afternoon NFL game. Maybe for the food and the drink and meetting influencial people, but the game bores her to death, and then she has to deal with your disappointment after your team lost.

OK! You can now ask; so what can I do to make her happy.

Let me repeat,  ‘Yeah Fellahs we are all clueless, as to what really makes her happy!’