The words "it's complicated" should be banned when you are in "a real relationship."
Ouch, Is it fixable?
Is it over or can you fix it? In my experience, women expect us, men, to screw up. Most of them are forgiving creatures. You only get into real trouble when you grab your BAD Idea and hold onto it!
There are ways to fix, what you broke.
Even a broken bowl can be fixed with Crazy glue, or you can fill the cracks with gold and make it beautiful like the Japanese do. Women are creatures that love beautiful things. So do what she would accept as a real apology, Buy a dozen peach colored-
‘ I’m sorry I was a real dumb ass-- roses’
We men often find ourselves, wondering how to apologize, when we know she thinking:
“I know you say you are sorry, but you are not!”---- maybe we are not sorry for our actions but we are sorry for the way our actions made her feel. There is a great difference, We can’t undo whatever it was we did, but we can try to make the woman feel like we would not do it again if we had to do it all over again. Given a chance we might not… but if we think we could get away with something if we had more time to think it through come up with a plan of action.. Who knows?
The way we want to correct things often have us doing even dumber things, as a result, it often makes it worse. While she is thinking you are only sorry because you got caught… You (as a man) might be thinking: ‘ if I had only covered my tracks better… I wouldn’t have to be doing damage control, now’
In the World of Social Media… it only takes a second to screw up royally, a post that goes viral, a picture showing you in the wrong place and date and time stamp indicates it. Hmmm! And you can’t find enough ways to cover up your bad deeds. “ What get’s men in the most trouble may not be the deed it’s self but the attempted coverup… finding friend who would lie for us…. Even trying to erase the deed itself hitting delete delete delete!
Destroy the evidence. Burn it in the fireplace, to aches. Call in for re-enforcement to help with the coverup. Remembering the friend that owes you a favor at that exact time when your mind is working overtime trying to erase the trails of evidence…. Like in movies… “Like just in case!” Go figure can you really erase evidence in today's world. If you have 10 mutual friends on social media the many to many relationships kicks in and your post can go totally viral in a second and you can’t undo and delete it. But who really believes that you can anymore? Usually a panic reaction at covering it up or erasing the deed.
When I was a rookie in My profession as IT Systems Analyst I often play a game of “what if?”
In my database administrator days, I often explained to clients what many -to- many relationships were. What Junction points are. That is what social media is today every action creates many to many actions. Wow. you mean my post will be in someone's feed across the pond streaming in seconds and they can see it on their devices instantly just because I posted it? Wow so so not cool just because I wanted to show off and didn’t think about the ramifications of my actions.
Fix it with gold fillings might be your only answer. Good luck!
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