When does it become evident, to a man, that she may not like herself as much as she should?

The Sadness in her eyes tells a telling tail of low self-esteem.

Very often men pursue women without knowing
their history or their current state of minds.
Men see her as someone that they totally admire externally,
and even her accomplishments.
And that is all that matters to us, momentarily...during “the chase”
and even at the beginning of the relationship.
But then the experiences of being together coming into play.
She has things that we question, behavioral patterns that erks us...,
things about her past that keeps popping up,
and these things may destroy what you are in the middle of building with her.
Unless a man is willing to take the time to understand that her self-esteem issues are more that he was aware of,

and now maybe what he is not willing to deal with….

He runs the risk of doing more damage than good to her.

She might just fall apart, if there is a breakup,
and go over the edge.
She might crash like a wave on the Rocky shoreline.
Losing herself to self-pity and even become suicidal.
Now unless a man is totally unfeeling this can become a problem that he may not have foreseen.
And now has to deal with… there are so many people dealing withabandonment issues, it’s crazy.
Men and women, that are not being treated by professionals,
may have strange ways of dealing with their lives forward.
The numbers are telling…. stories after stories.

Now I know that the women that are reading this are questioning why am I picking on women *issues.
When it’s usually a man or two that cause women to have low self-esteem issues.
I have to concur… because women often need to be validated.
And men usually need to feel trusted.
So putting these fact in evidence we are often in a cycle of a spin-drying like in a whirlpool washer.
Flipping up and down....over and being spun around until all is said and done.
Men lose the trust that women initially had in them,
and women lose the validation that they often require to feel worthy of love,
compassion, and admiration.

The following are a few pointers that can make for a  
happy Couple self-help therapy - K.I.S.S.

Give each other attention when it’s needed most….
Remember - Her wave can be crashing you need to recognize that it’s happening,
and give her your support,
and he needs to feel her trust when he needs it most.

Refresh and enjoy each-other, often!

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  Spend quality time together as often as time permits

Grant each other  a professional massage every now and then

Let’s get rid of all the toxic energy here and now. Sweat out the toxic stuff together in the Sauna

let’s leave it all here in this barrel

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  Take off the hat and shades, and let me teach you how to swim.
  You can trust me!

Giving her a piggyback ride now and then.

Lift up her spirit when she needs it most!

Remember men are “givers” and women are “taker”
so give him the opportunity to "give"
and her the opportunity to “receive”  

Have an eye to eye talk about your future together!

Go to a concert where they play “love songs”