We men often do not realize that to a woman the little things are just as important as the big things.
In other words, to a woman, a single rose gets as many points (+1) as paying her rent for her on time.
Without understanding this basic difference in scorekeeping, men and women are continually frustrated and disappointed in their relationships. “It’s the little things that make a big difference!”
Without understanding this basic difference in scorekeeping, men and women are continually frustrated and disappointed in their relationships. “It’s the little things that make a big difference!”
There are a variety of ways a man can score points with his woman without having to do great things.
It is just a matter of redirecting the energy and attention he is already giving.
Most men already know about many of these things but we don’t bother to do them
because we don’t realize how important the little thing is to a woman.
We men truly believe the little things are insignificant when compared to the big things we are doing for her.
It is just a matter of redirecting the energy and attention he is already giving.
Most men already know about many of these things but we don’t bother to do them
because we don’t realize how important the little thing is to a woman.
We men truly believe the little things are insignificant when compared to the big things we are doing for her.
Some men may start out in a relationship doing the little things,
but having done them once or twice we stop. Through some mysterious instinctive force,
we begin to focus our energies into doing one big thing for our woman once or twice a year.
We then neglect to do all the little things that are necessary for a woman to feel fulfilled.
To fulfill a woman, a man needs to understand what she needs to feel loved and supported.
The love tank needs to be Topped up constantly!
but having done them once or twice we stop. Through some mysterious instinctive force,
we begin to focus our energies into doing one big thing for our woman once or twice a year.
We then neglect to do all the little things that are necessary for a woman to feel fulfilled.
To fulfill a woman, a man needs to understand what she needs to feel loved and supported.
The love tank needs to be Topped up constantly!
“So is the Love Tank on Full?”
This can be extremely hard for a man to understand. One way to look at it...
just imagine that women have a love tank similar to the gas tank on a car.
It needs to be filled up over and over again.
Doing many little things is the secret for filling a woman’s love tank.
A woman feels loved when her love tank is full.
She is able to respond with greater love, trust,
acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement.
Lots of little things are needed to top off her tank.
just imagine that women have a love tank similar to the gas tank on a car.
It needs to be filled up over and over again.
Doing many little things is the secret for filling a woman’s love tank.
A woman feels loved when her love tank is full.
She is able to respond with greater love, trust,
acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement.
Lots of little things are needed to top off her tank.
The following is a list of my top 10 of the little ways
a man can keep his woman’s love tank full:
Upon arriving home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug and a kiss
( the man will be scoring many points over time).
Fellahs be brief, avoid being too lengthy. Use “would you “ or “ will you” phrases, avoid using phrases like. "could you "Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do a man can keep his woman’s love tank full:
Upon arriving home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug and a kiss
( the man will be scoring many points over time).
(.e.g, “How did your appointment with the client go?”
Practice listening and asking questions.
Resist the temptation to solve her problems--- empathize instead.
Give her twenty minutes of unsolicited, quality attention
(don’t read the newspaper or watch the news, don’t be distracted by anything else during this time.)
Bring her some cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
Plan a date several days, weeks in advance,
rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn to cook and she seems tired or really busy,
rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn to cook and she seems tired or really busy,
offer to make dinner. Of better yet get home before she does and starts fixing her favorites.
Validate her feelings when she is upset.
Final thoughts
Guys it would be in your best interest to be the magic man!
It’s magic when a man does the little things, she likes, for a woman.
It keeps her love tank full and the score even. When the score is even,
or mostly even, a woman knows she is loved, which makes her more trusting and loving in return.
When a woman knows she’s loved, she can love without resentment.
Doing little things for a woman is also healing for a man.
In fact, those little things will tend to heal his resentments as well as hers.
He begins to feel powerful and effective because she’s getting the caring she needs.
Both are then fulfilled.
It keeps her love tank full and the score even. When the score is even,
or mostly even, a woman knows she is loved, which makes her more trusting and loving in return.
When a woman knows she’s loved, she can love without resentment.
Doing little things for a woman is also healing for a man.
In fact, those little things will tend to heal his resentments as well as hers.
He begins to feel powerful and effective because she’s getting the caring she needs.
Both are then fulfilled.
Who knows you might become the man that causes her to have
“spontaneous Orgasms”!
“spontaneous Orgasms”!
Treat her like she is Aphrodite and she will treat you like you’re Zeus!!
Her memories of you will be in the category of
“The Man that caused the most consecutive orgasms in her life!”
“The Man that caused the most consecutive orgasms in her life!”
Serendipity: The effect by which one accidentally stumbles upon something truly wonderful,
especially while looking for something entirely unrelated ~Author Unknown
especially while looking for something entirely unrelated ~Author Unknown
However ladies:
When a man hears a demanding tone, no matter how nicely you phrase your request all he hears is that he is not giving you enough.
His tendency is then to give less until you appreciate what he is already giving.
When asking a man for support, assume that he doesn’t have to be convinced.
His tendency is then to give less until you appreciate what he is already giving.
When asking a man for support, assume that he doesn’t have to be convinced.
To ask a man for support:
Be direct, avoid being indirect
“could you’ or can you.”
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