Two kinds of Men/One Kind of behavior

So which kind of man are you?

Ladies, there are two kinds of men. One will become incredibly defensive and stubborn when a woman tries to change him, while the other will Agree to change but later

will forget and revert back to the old behavior.

A man either actively resists or passively resists.

When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will either consciously

or unconsciously repeat the behavior that is not being accepted.

He feels an inner compulsion to repeat the behavior that is not being accepted, by his woman.

For a man to improve himself he needs to feel loved in an accepting way. Otherwise, he defends himself and stays the same. He needs to feel accepted just the way he is, and then he, on his own, will look for ways to improve.

FACT: Men don’t want to be improved/change

Just as a man want to explain why women shouldn’t be upset, women want to explain why men shouldn’t behave the way they do….. Just as men mistakenly want to “fix” women, women mistakenly try to “improve” men.

Men see the world through Martian eyes. Our motto is “ don’t fix it, if it isn’t broken.” When a woman attempts to change a man, he receives the message that she thinks he is broken. This hurts a man and makes him very defensive. He doesn’t feel loved and accepted

The best way to help a man grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way.

A man needs acceptance regardless of his imperfections. To accept a person’s imperfections is not easy, especially when women see how he could become better. It does, however, become easier when women understand that the best way to help a man grow is to let go of the idea that the change him in any way.

The following  can help a woman remember:

• Remember: don’t ask him too many questions when he is upset or he will feel you are trying to change him.
• Remember: trying to improve him in give up his way of doing things. He needs your love, not your rejection, to grow.
• Remember: when you offer unsolicited advice he may feel mistrusted, controlled and most importantly rejected.
• Remember: when a man becomes stubborn and resists change he is not feeling loved; he is afraid to admit his mistakes for fear of not being loved.
• Remember: if you make sacrifices hoping he will do the same for you then he will feel pressured to change. Practice doing things for yourself and not depending on him to make you happy.
• Remember: you can share negative feelings without trying to change him. When he feels accepted it is easier for him to listen.
• Remember: if you give him directions and make decisions for him he will feel corrected and controlled

I’m so glad we understand each other now, that you remember the key points

As men and women learn to support each other in the ways that are most important for their own unique needs, change and growth will become automatic. With a greater awareness of your partner’s primary needs, you can redirect your support according to their needs and make your relationships dramatically easier and more fulfilling.