Have you ever fantasized about having a threesome?

I'm their cleaning lady, I know they both want me!

But do they know what I’m hiding?

Let face it, many, if not all men have fantasized about having the pleasure of being with more than one woman at a time. Just take a survey and see the responses you will get. But hold up  be very careful what you’re fantasize about you might already be in a threesome relationship, and not know it. So what am I writing about here? The secret threesome! What!? The threesome that does not really include a third person present and accounted for, but instead it’s the anxieties some folks suffer from. Their past is always lingering over your relationship, your past is always hanging around like a cloud. The fact that many folks walk into relationships not knowing  what they are getting themselves into, is not new news. It’s more common than most folks would admit to.

So we are arguing about what now,
this threesome starting to getting to me?

If you have never talked to your sex partner, on a deeper level, about things that affected you or them deeply, then you will be in a surprise threesome.

If you have not told the new person about the mistakes you have made in your past then you are in secretive threesome.

If you have not shown your true colors  when you or your partner get angry, maybe not initially exposed, the time bomb is ticking. then you are a potential dysfunctional threesome.  

If you have fears about what might be discovered about your past, then you are in a secret spy series threesome.

Now folks might read the above caption and think I’m going kinky with this blog post. I may have started off thinking Kinky <smirking> initially but as I started writing my thought flow went somewhere else. Now, what is it that cause me to shift my focus and start writing about the secrets or threesomes many folks are living with everyday. It’s happening more and more because social media is more of a threat at exposing or triggering stuff that we may have hidden in our heads and when these things are triggered. We start tripping. I know this because I know I trip often when I start writing a blog post things I write about are often  triggered by something or someone.

My dad may he RIP, told me when I was a teen that I should never, ever, tell a female she reminds me of someone else. “You will never know how that might make her feel.” It’s OK to see a picture of someone you have never met and see the similarities between them in the picture or on the big screen. And say:’ she reminds me of you’ Not many women would have a problem with that because the comparison is not about a personal experience from your past. Women and even men are sensitive about the other person’s unknown past.  

A woman I had a relationship with asked me if I ever wanted to have a threesome, but not with two women… My response was: ‘ please tell me what you are referring to’  she said she once saw a porn movie where a woman enjoyed having two men do her at the same time. My response was: ‘ you are having A fantasy of gang banging? interesting!’

This is the male mindset. Woman’s fantasy of a threesome with 2 men, instantly becomes about gang rape and gang banging. But we want a woman to buy into the male fantasies about two women and a dude. Mmm hmm! This is what  most guys think about when we mention threesomes. Ooh we are such hypocrites. The world has changed and women are much more liberated in their thoughts and their desires, and even in the things they are willing to try. Men are often stuck in their dominant roles in relationship, over the years we’ve been most comfortable with our beliefs or desire, our thoughts and even of our Threesome phobias.

Huh, so you two want to have me join

you in a threesome?