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| Will he ask me about my tattoo? And why I put it where I have it? |
The most provocative look a woman can display is not nudity!
It’s the silhouette of almost-nude!
It’s the silhouette of almost-nude!
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| Her thoughts: “OK I just wanted to test his reaction!” |
Never mind how things start out with a new lover interest, you will have instinctive fears of wanting
to run away from love or become hooked on just falling in love.
This is the time to work on your unhealed feelings. When deep feelings come up you would
be very wise to seek help from a therapist. When deep issues come floating to the surface,
we project our feelings onto our new love interest. If we did not feel safe to express our feelings
to that person or a past love partner, all of sudden we cannot get in touch with our true feelings
in the presence of our present love interest. At this point, no matter how supportive
your new partner might be, when you are with this new person you will not feel safe to share every
detail of your fears.
to run away from love or become hooked on just falling in love.
This is the time to work on your unhealed feelings. When deep feelings come up you would
be very wise to seek help from a therapist. When deep issues come floating to the surface,
we project our feelings onto our new love interest. If we did not feel safe to express our feelings
to that person or a past love partner, all of sudden we cannot get in touch with our true feelings
in the presence of our present love interest. At this point, no matter how supportive
your new partner might be, when you are with this new person you will not feel safe to share every
detail of your fears.
It’s a paradox:
because you feel safe enough with your new love interest, your deepest fears have a chance
to surface. When they surface you become afraid and unable to share what you are feeling.
to surface. When they surface you become afraid and unable to share what you are feeling.
This is when having a counselor ot therapist is tremendously helpful.
When you are with someone you are not projecting your fears on, you can process the feelings
that are coming up, way better. If you are only with your new love interest, you may feel numb.
This is why people who are in new very loving relationships may inevitably need the help of a
therapist, to overcome fears. Sharing in support groups also has this liberating effect.
Let me emphasize by saying this; women usually have support conversations with their BFFs.
Whereas men keep their issues a secret. When our unresolved feelings are being projected
on our intimate partner, he or she is usually powerless to help us. All our partner can do is
encourage us to get professional support by understanding how our past continues to affect the
ebb and flow of our love emotions. We begin to trust love and its healing process.
Which is essential to keeping the magic of love alive, we must be flexible and adapt to
the ongoing changing seasons in our lives.
When you are with someone you are not projecting your fears on, you can process the feelings
that are coming up, way better. If you are only with your new love interest, you may feel numb.
This is why people who are in new very loving relationships may inevitably need the help of a
therapist, to overcome fears. Sharing in support groups also has this liberating effect.
Let me emphasize by saying this; women usually have support conversations with their BFFs.
Whereas men keep their issues a secret. When our unresolved feelings are being projected
on our intimate partner, he or she is usually powerless to help us. All our partner can do is
encourage us to get professional support by understanding how our past continues to affect the
ebb and flow of our love emotions. We begin to trust love and its healing process.
Which is essential to keeping the magic of love alive, we must be flexible and adapt to
the ongoing changing seasons in our lives.
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