So how often did I get it wrong?

Men often have misunderstandings with women, simply because we men overreact, or we don’t act at the right time.

Where you ever listening to me or not?

So how often did I get wrong?

This Should be the question men should ask themselves when dealing with most women.

If it's true that "every action causes a reaction," then we need to calculate logically when is the right time to react or not act., or offer her advice she didn’t ask for.

These are a few things I have learned over the years.

* When a woman talks about problems, we men usually resist instantly. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed. He does not realize that she is talking to feel better. A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.

* Men talk about problems for only two reasons: we are blaming someone or we are seeking advice. If a woman is really upset, a man assumes she is blaming him. If she seems less upset, then he assumes she is asking for advice. In a man’s mind, this is clear and simple!

If he assumes she is asking for advice, then he puts on his Mr. Fix-It-Hat to solve her problems. If he assumes she is blaming him, and all other men for that matter, then he draws his sword to protect himself from the attack. In both cases, he soon finds it difficult to listen.

Warning: If a man offers solutions to a woman’s problems, she will just continue to talk about more problems. After offering two or three solutions, he expects her to feel better. This is because men feel better with solutions being offered, as long as they have asked for a solution to be offered. When a woman doesn’t feel better, he feels his solutions have been rejected, and he feels unappreciated.

Example: I had a great relationship with the men of my neighbors in my last 2 community I  lived in suburbs in South Florida. We guys would get together often on Saturday mornings and cut our laws at the same time, then we would gather together and talk like we were in the locker room, over a few beers. My neighbors were all good in their areas of expertise, a ranking police officer, a Federal agent, a College professor, a Banker, an MD an ex-pro NFL ballplayer, a lawyer and me a Computer IT consultant. We are all still friends.  The men have conversations that would help each other… because we each brought a different perspective to the conversations. The wives and girl-friends always thought we were just talking about nonsense, well sometimes we were. However, if any of us had a problem that one the other fellas had a solution for then we all gained from it. The women, however, would not have any of this kind of regular gathering. So when they assumed that we were talking sports. They would try to do their own thing like on Fight night at the federal agent's house was always a classic, because the mix was even better. We would get together, all bringing food and drinks, and watch whichever big fights on the big screen… some of the women would sit and watch with us but some would go on the patio and have their own conversations about whatever. This wasn’t always a good thing. Because women started making comparisons about things that didn’t have solutions in their groups.

When one of the guys would overhear the women talking about something he would get that look from the women like, he was being a spy. And he would be attacked.  If a man feels attacked, then he begins to defend himself. Even though he may not be the one who caused the problem the women were discussing. The fellas would not run to help him or me out for jumping in a bee’s nest. They would start yelling about the TKO that just happen that he missed on the big screen. Which was code for getting out of there, you idiot, you can’t win by arguing with a group of women, no matter what the subject?