The need for distance is felt differently by women and by men

This no longer feels “right,” he just keeps walking away from me!

we men don’t need the reassurance of the words,

we all may have felt rejection or even betrayal in a previous relationship(s),
so knowing the feeling comes back even when it 's not what it seems to be.

Women often try to turn their lives around after they have felt they were
betrayed or rejected (a breakup has a lasting effect on women.)  
She may have had a relationship that painted “the perfect picture…”
a romance that had her thinking she had found a “perfect match!”
But then it took a devastating turn, she will have to find major strength to recover,
from a new chain of events. A woman must fight to escape a
new dangerous web of secrets (her secrets, his secrets) to start fresh again.
Can she keep her dark moments in her past hidden while opening up her heart again?
Find a  new combustible blend of romance, intrigue, and suspense that will
“boggle her mind right up until the bombshell climax erupts of new love is expressed to her’

It may be her second or third chance at love but she needs to decipher if it’s a tale of lust ---
filled with illicit temptations, or just a crush or real true love….
she needs to know before she will give a new love possibility, a shot.
She can’t just throw caution to the wind and jump into a relationship.

Men, on the other hand, have a rubber band instincts even though

”Trust Me, I’m different” coming from a new love interest, will have him thinking .

Both men and women Doubt their partner’s love sometimes

Without a full understanding of the many cycles in relationships,
it is easy to see how men and women begin to doubt their partners love for them.
Without seeing how a woman can inadvertently prevent men from finding
their passion in life, (by asking/telling the man to behave the way she expects him to)  
they often simply assume that their man will be the same all the time as when
he was “chasing her.” SMDH the chase is a challenge, but establishing a

new relationship brings an altogether new set of challenges. Feeling a continuous strong need for her presence, can and will overwhelm a man at times.
She wants him to have eyes for her only.
But when he needs to pull back she misinterprets his behavior as he is now interested in someone else not just something else that may have nothing to do with her or another woman.
Men can have a one-track mind at times, but it's not always on what you are thinking.
Something else could be many different things, a job situation going well or not going well,
a desire to have a new set of challenges, a need for a few new sets of buddies to hang out with.
Ladies, it’s not always about “sex” and chasing a new female.
This is how women misinterpret men’s behaviors.
To a certain extent, a man loses himself through connecting with his partner.

What does that mean?

Men may just need “some space” or “need to be alone, to collect their thoughts and understand

their true feelings for a period of time” regardless of how it is described when a man retreats,
he is fulfilling a valid need to take care of himself for a while.
Just like we do not decide to be hungry, a man does not decide to retreat.
It is an instinctual urge. Men can only get so close, and then he begins to lose himself.
At that point, he begins to feel his need for autonomy and begins his retreat for better positioning.

OK, so why do men pull away when women want to get close?

For many women, a man tends to pull away precisely at the time when she wants to
talk and be intimate. This occurs for two reasons:
A woman will unconsciously sense when a man is pulling away and precisely at those times she will attempt to establish their intimate connections and say

the Magic words “Let’s talk”. Hmmm! he hears this and he continues to pull away,

she mistakenly concludes that he doesn’t want her,  that he does not care for her, “woman!”,

he just does not want to talk.”

When women open up and share deeper and more intimate feelings it may actually trigger a

man’s need to retreat, and distance himself from her.

A man can only handle so much intimacy before his alarm bell goes off,

saying to himself it is time to find balance by retreating for better positioning.

At the most intimate moment, a man may suddenly automatically

switch to his  reverse gear to feeling his need for autonomy.

I Try!