Do you really know what I want?

 Things Men Really want from their Women



DATING ADVICE FOR WOMEN, from a male perspective.


What does a man really need from a woman he’s dating? It’s not an easy question. In fact, answering such a question requires a thorough understanding of male psychology, human psychology, love, behavioral patterns… the list could go on and on.

“What men want in women and from women is getting more complex by the minute,” said an expert in Psychology Today. “Men and their motives are evolving.”

As social norms and the way we date and view relationships change, so does what we want. This makes it more important than ever to understand what we  men really need, not just what we say we need or think we need.


True, there are some men who are good at communicating what they want. But more often than not, men are taught to stay strong, be tough in the face of sadness, and put up a false bravado when grappling with emotions. Because of this, we often don’t think to communicate about what we need in a relationship, or may not even be aware of it.

Though every man is different and the specific things that make us happy vary, there are a few fundamental things that almost every man needs from a woman he’s dating.

Here are the some of the most important needs from you when you’re in a relationship:

1. Heart
Most men (not all) aren’t always able to share their worries, fears, and frustrations with others. Because of this, we need a woman to open up to, who is kind and understanding enough to be vulnerable with. We also want to  "Let it Be!"

2. Attention
Men need women who are good listeners, because when they start talking about something personal or private they get into a type of flow. Interrupting this flow too much might cause a man to shut down. Instead, when a man is opening up about something, offer him feedback if he asks or seems receptive, but for the most part just let him express himself.

Give him the space to be vulnerable by making an effort to be in a good emotional state yourself. If you’re falling apart or always on an emotional roller coaster, he won’t feel comfortable discussing his issues with you. By being there for him when he’s ready to talk and giving him your full attention, you’ll bring a refreshing sense of peace and serenity to his life. I know, it sounds kind of airy-fairy and spiritual but it’s true!

Just to be clear, I’m not saying you should be fake and have a giant grin on your face at all times. (That’s not going to help anyone.) My point here is that you should be a positive presence as much as you can. This makes it easier for him to open up to you.


3. Respect
Men need respect in general but in particular when it comes to dating and relationships. Most men need a woman who appreciates them for who and what they are. Look at what he’s skilled at and passionate about and be encouraging in a genuine way. Don’t pretend to feel a way you don’t just to make a man interested in you.

It’s a little old school, but some men also want to be seen as heroes in a sense. Not like he actually needs to save you, but he wouldn’t mind saving the day once in a while. That means he wants to be someone you look up to or go to for advice. Ask him questions about things you’re genuinely interested in. Ask for his input. Going to the person you care about when you’re struggling with something is part of a healthy relationship and will also make a man feel needed and wanted.

4. Freedom
Freedom in a relationship means giving a man space when he needs it, letting him go out with his male friends, encouraging his hobbies, and respecting him as an individual separate from the relationship you share. Giving a man freedom also means that he isn’t your entire life. If you define yourself by the man you’re seeing, there’s a good chance you could scare him away.

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I trust you!

5. Trust
Tupac famously raps, “I want to take away your pain and misery but all I need is your faith in me.” Having trust and faith in a man means you think he’s a good person.