The questions we should ask, while thinking about it... how does her memory really work in her brain? Memories are personal, even when they are about other folks. If we think about a person with fond/ bad memories then each time we go to that emotional moment we relive it... if it was good or bad. The feeling returns, but for another person it's different. Their emotional recall of the same events may have been totally different to yours.
So both of you remembers the night you spent in a passionate event between the sheets... the estacy she experienced ( your thoughts) or the frustrations of a non-climactic event (her recall). Maybe she lied to make you feel like she had an experience of a few wonderful rounds with a Mandingo Superhero (smirking). If she tells you she does not remember all the things you did to her, all she can remember is how you made her feel...don't push it... by asking specifics..it could have been a really good feeling that she experienced or a few BAD ones.....
This is Why we should Embrace The Power of Thinking Differently?
As long as we are willing, we may each learn from those around us. The eye opening lessons come from those who, in particular, who think differently from us.
Steve Jobs said it best, “think different.”
Big picture over all vision vs. detail.
The two thought processes are diametrically opposed.
If you're meeting with a lady for the first time, agressive actions results in believes that by putting the details in place first, one has a defined process for moving forward with a relationship
However, the problem with getting too caught up in details upfront, about the future will cause added anguish, if they are not her feelings also. In turn, this may slow down the progress. By the end of the meeting, she may actually feel in a state of overwhelm for what lies ahead.
The mindset of take calculated risks, is not possible for every person. On one hand you might be willing to take the risk. But she might not. Remember men are like microwaves and women are slow cookers.
On the other end, by looking at the largest vision imaginable, and then working backward, to put milestones in place, you quickly recognize highly motivating reasons to advance forward.
The trade-off is that some details may be missing. But should you be willing to learn from trial and error, and thoughtful experimentation, the details will soon become apparent. It is the motivated persistence that leads to a successful outcome. She will want you to pursue her.. before she ropes you and ties you down.
Black and white thinking vs. Creatve.
we're expected to speak at length on a particular topic. On one hand be romantic, and on the other have questions on your mind, and have answers to her questions. If you take the time to answer the specific questions she ask... you might just progress. Her idea is to satisfy the needs to her agenda. Once the questions are answered, she might relax to the topic at hand. The one were a second date might be possible.
But if you screw up she will express outrage because you strayed off-topic. In her mind it was agreed that the answers provided would encourage her to return the next time.
Your story
Doing things like everyone else will only produce average results. The question becomes, is your desire to be average? Should the answer be “no”, then take time to examine how you currently perform.
Do you intuitively move forward in spite of what others say?
Is there a larger vision in mind toward which you are working?
As you become opinionated on how to proceed, and follow your gut, you begin to build a well-defined personal brand. By sticking to what you believe to be right for you, and in all you do, others will know they can count on you. Witnessing you move steadily towards your vision, serves to inspire others, she might be impressed.
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