Caribbean people don’t really understand the 4 seasons very well, unless we lived in places where seasons change every 4 months.

Kiss me now, because tomorrow I might not be in the same mood!

Let me caution you to remember that LOVE is seasonal. In the Spring it is easy, but in the Summer it is hard work. In Autumn (Fall) you may feel very generous and fulfilled, but in Winter you will feel empty. The information you need to get through Summer and work on your relationships is easily forgotten. The love you feel in the Fall is easily lost in the Winter. In the summer of love, when things get difficult and you are not getting the love you need, quite suddenly you may forget everything you have learned about relationships. In an instant it’s all gone, emotions take charge. You may begin to blame your partner and forget how to nurture their needs.  When the emptiness of winter sets in, you may feel hopeless. You may even blame yourself and forget how to love and nurture yourself. You may become cynical and feel like giving up. This is all a part of the cycle. It is always darkest before the dawn.

To be successful in our relationships we must accept and understand the different seasons of love. Sometimes love flows easily and automatically, at other times our hearts are full and at other times our hearts are empty. We must not expect our partners to always be loving or even to remember how to be loving.

Remind me again! What season are we in, currently?

We must also give ourselves this gift of understanding and not expect to remember everything we about seasonal love. The process of learning requires not only hearing and applying but also forgetting and then remembering again.

We have weathered another 4 seasons. Are we good, or what?

FINAL THOUGHT.

Not only do we need to hear it two hundred times but we also need to understand that unlearning what we have learned in the past, about someone, will not apply to someone else (someone new) We are not innocent children learning how to have successful relationships. We have all been programmed by our parents, by the cultures we have grown up in, and by our own painful past experiences. Integrating this new wisdom of how to have loving relationships is a new challenge for many of us. So become pioneers and travel in new territories….

Expect to get lost sometimes. Expect your lover to be lost from time to time.

Never be enough!