Don’t even think about touching me!
We all have been programmed by our parents, by our cultures we have grown up in, and by our past experiences. Integrating this new wisdom of having loving relationships is a new challenge. You are pioneers. You are traveling in new territories. Expect to be lost, disappointed, angry at your lover sometimes. Expect your lover to be lost….as to why you feel that way. If you have different road maps in your heads, you will be dealing with uncharted lands again and again.
The very next time you are frustrated with the opposite sex, remember Men are from another planet and women are also from that planet that men have never lived on. Even if you don’t remember why things are so different in your heads, remember that we are supposed to be different, this will help you to be more understanding and most importantly more loving. By gradually releasing your judgments and blaming and persistently asking and demanding what you want, you can create a less confrontational relationship.
You may believe you want, need and deserve, but your lover may not see it the same way.
Compromise is the key to harmony!
When we fail to compromise we fail to co-exist, longterm. NO man or woman will live together with a none compromising partner for too long these days. The options are too many. Your choices, in your head, will override what your partner wants. It becomes complicated. No one will live in a complicated relationship for very long. When it gets to that point of thinking “I can’t deal with this anymore “ it becomes a matter of time before the split happens.
To be successful in our relationships we must accept and understand the different phases of love are normal. Sometimes love flows easily (like in the beginning) and automatically (caused by attraction); at other times it requires greater effort. Some times our hearts are full at other times we are empty. We must not expect our partners to always be “that person, you fell in love with” they may not even remember why or how to be that person anymore. As time passes people change. “A charming man” will be less charming after he has lived with a nagging woman for a long while. He may not see the need to showcase his charms on a continuous base. “A sweet and loving woman” will have her days where she is less sweet when she has live with a grumpy man, she may even be considered evil, by that man who was so charming in the beginning. Mood swings are normal. If you don’t understand that it will happen you will get frustrated and not want anything to do with that person. To think you will always feel the same way about someone is foolish and naive.
But when it’s all said and done the memories will also be as different as the genders are different.
We are both reading in bed, but we are reading different books. Hmmmm!
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