Men need to understand what, women want as women need to understand what men want.

Relationships need NOT be complicated… if every gender understands what the other wants.

Woman have come a long way. Men (of color) have regressed in the last few decades a bit.

I like to use Bob Johnson, BET as an example. He had a dream of establishing a Black Entertainment Television Network. and his wife’s father who was established help him become a billionaire. Not many folks realize that he took advantage of the unique situation he found himself in …. A situation that would not have been presented to him had he not been ambitious and gotten some help along the way.  

So women see that older gentlemen who are established present themselves in ways that many women want to be on their arms. OK, this sounds, no different than when women of yesteryears, who knew if they look good and had some smarts they could hitch themselves on a  good man with ambition and Assets.

Robert Smith. He made some very smart moves!

The look of an established Billionaire and Millionaire is not that of many younger men in their early to mid 30(s) or even 40(s). These are men who have worked their way into positions that required focus, and they didn’t have time to go clubbing and other nonsense, like strip clubs making it rain.

Whereas today's women are also working their way up the ladder and are establishing themselves as corner office Executives.

Her corner office is no accident.. she earned it!

We can see the differences instantly It took years before the (black) man could get to the point where he occupied his corner office with great views.

Whereas women with heightened awareness may have taken a different path to success. Without a doubt, she had to have worked hard to get where she has established her position. But we can’t compare their journeys, not all journeys are even close to being equal. Especially if tokenism is in play. Trust me I know the journey of the “spook who sat by the door” highly visible when affirmative action was somewhat working a for us token few. A man who presented himself well had a chance for growth. But he needed at least an undergraduate University degree. Women these days don’t usually stop at undergraduate degrees, black women (in record numbers these last few decades) have figured out that having a masters degree, and even a Ph.D. is key to moving to the head of the class. And even taking an entrepreneurial path.  So when we admire power couples and think to ourselves “why can’t I have what they have.”

We are thinking that these folks had an easy road to the top and “Yes we can” and “we can if we Think we can” and “It’s just a matter of being focused, on what we want, and who we will take the journey with.” These folks stories, are that of early struggle and never quitting on their dreams. All these folks have lived interesting lives that most of us are not willing to make the sacrifices to accomplish their statuses.

The ultimate power couple.

    

So when a woman expect that she can pick and choose the guy like the ones who work in the corner office, or the one who will become President of the major country.  Or the guy who thinks that his charms and rugged-swagger-looks will attract the woman who worked hard to get to her corner office will work for him.. (OK maybe she might be attracted but will not act on it because he might not work out the way she expects.)

Folks... Just think again! Don’t waste too much time because time flows, at record speed these days, and you are not going to stay young and energetic forever.