Your experience is not the other person’s experience.

It says here in my book that we are not compatible
unless we are of different cultures!

Women who can’t find loving relationships in their own cultures, usually Justify why they have crossed over. OK, men do it also… but men usually don’t care as much about what others think of their choices.

Not all of the  men of your culture wll treat you the way…. you are describing your unfortunate  experiences, and generalizing. SMDH.

While  watching some videos on Youtube I came across  this one and it caught my attention. The first young lady prefers Caucasian men… there is nothing wrong with that… especially if they treated her well...enough to her satisfaction, but describing her experiences with her own black men she is generalizing that all black men might treat her…. not the way she wants to be treated. Whereas the other young lady of a Latina culture says that black men treat her better. Hmmmm! Could it be that they all started out with the wrong ideas of how they would be treated, by their own?

I’m just saying… we all know that men like trophies, you see I got one and she is way better than what I would have had if I stuck with my own culture. <smirking>

In a culture where Latina women are more desired than black women, it’s the Latina trophy that men are seeking. In a culture where white men can find an attractive black woman and she represents what he is looking for but she may not have found a perfect match in her own culture, she becomes the trophy that he is looking for. NOT all men of culture do things the same way or want the same kind of women. I could not help but observe how the first young lady’s body language changed a few times as she was listening to the Latina describe how black men treat her better, and that Latino men are all cheaters and she was not willing to put up with that.  Her body language was telling me…. she was resenting that black men treat the Latina women better than they had treated her.

Women always find themselves justifying why they prefer a man of another culture,
almost like they feel like they have to defend their choices while bashing the men of their own culture.
Like I have often said: if you don’t like your own you may have to tell why they are not worthy
of your time. But if you resent that they treat someone else of a different culture better than they
do you then you may have to ask yourself what are you doing or not doing that makes
your experiences not what you want. OK it could just be BAD luck…. (shrugging my shoulders)

All men of the same culture are not created equal. Just like all women of a culture are not created
equal either, our taste in mates differ. Our choices and preferences come in to play.

You will never be totally happy if what you are looking for is because what
your experience has been in your past, new experiences will not be the same as your past.
The only reason you may chose to cross the street, the train tracks, the border, or leave,
the city, the county, the state, or even the Country to find what you think you want culturally
that is not your own …. It’s because you are not going to be happy with your own kind,
maybe not even happy with yourself.

Final thoughts

Being a man who grew up in a very diverse culture and was educated in two different melting pots,
worked in environments where I was the only black face in my department.
I have experienced many cultures….some I might even prefer over others and maybe even my own….  
But my preferences have to do with people not their cultures necessarily.
But whoever is of your culture when you are growing up, or you have relocated and are now living
in a diverse environment, or you find yourself working in a melting pot, you will develop preferences.
We as people will always see the grass as greener on the other side!   
Take care of your own lawn and you will see it as green as that of your neighbors!